Naturally Thin
86I'm going to bet that this hub is the only one of its kind on this website. But I'm going to risk hate mail anyway.
I am naturally thin. And for years I absolutely hated it (I know, get the eye-rolling over with now, because I'm dead serious here). I saw all the gorgeous women with hips and breasts and curves everywhere and wished I looked so womanly. I thought the curvier women were the most beautiful, had the most desirable shape. I'd look at my own body and feel sad that mine looked so pubescent, so boyish and immature. I waited patiently for my body to graduate to the volumptuous sexy desirable figure of my dreams. Turns out, I ended up with the short end of the 'woman' stick. I felt like a stranger in my body for a long time, like my body didn't fit with who I really was. My head, heart, and spirit were those of a woman, but I was stuck in the body of an 11 year old. It was the strangest identity disconnect. I wished and wished for years to gain weight and when I finally gained ten pounds my junior year of college, I was beyond ecstatic. I felt like I was finally allowed to feel sexy, to feel womanly, and I've been happy with my 110 lb self since.
But, I'm still interested in why I couldn't feel the way I do now when I was at a steady 102 lbs. Why did I have to feel unwomanly? Why did I have to feel insecure next to a woman with gorgeous curves? I don't understand why every natural body type can't be stunning and sexy and lovable.
Some gripes from naturally thin women:
Real Women Have Curves
I hear this everywhere. And I absolutely hate that phrase. So... what if you don't have curves, hmmm? Does that mean I'm not a 'real' woman? Associating womanhood with a certain body type is where we start getting into trouble people.
What's next? Real women have blonde hair? Real women are tall? Real women have at least a C cup? Saying 'real women have curves' is the exact same rediculous statement, since it is automatically exclusionary.
How horrible to start telling females they aren't women because their natural body type doesn't include wide hips and large breasts.
Skinny Bashing - or - Shut up Skinny B***h!!
It seems like there's some kind of backlash against being thin. Don't people realize that many people don't have to starve themselves to be slender? Not to mention people can be downright nasty and mean to naturally thin people, giving them dirty looks, being almost savagely unfriendly to someone for something they can't change.
Phrases like 'real women have curves' are hurtful for women who naturally don't have any. It seems all I hear these days is how curvy women shouldn't worry because they've got what men want. "Men don't like those skinny minnies anyway! They want something they can grab onto!" Boy, thanks a lot. It's like people are demonizing thinness in order to make curvy women feel better about themselves.
But why do we have to do that? Why do we have to make some women feel better at the expense of others? I just don't understand why all natural body types can't be beautiful, regardless of size or shape.
We should be helping each other, not tearing one group down in order to build another up. That is bullying and should not be acceptable.
Are You Anorexic?
I've heard this before, and I'm sure many other naturally thin women have too. Just because you are thin does not mean you have an eating disorder. EDs are very serious medical problems and it is hurtful to stereotypically apply an eating disorder to every naturally thin person out there. Compare the following sentences and see if you can identify the similarities:
"Wow, do you eat like, 15 steaks a day? I mean, you're so huge! Don't you ever stop eating? Are you diabetic?"
"Wow, do you eat like, one celery stick a day? I mean, you're almost non-existent! Don't you ever eat? Are you anorexic?"
I have NEVER gone up to a larger girl and asked her how much she eats, whether she excercises, or said anything about their weight. It's so unbelievably rude and not my business anyway. So I don't see how it's acceptable for people to ask naturally thin women if they have eating disorders. And yet, many people still think it is ok to tell people that their natural body type looks anorexic.
I hate it when people tell me to eat a cheeseburger. If you think that eating a cheeseburger, or even 10 cheeseburgers will make me add pounds, you're in for a big surprise. I simply do not gain weight.
This girl says it better than I can!
Exercising Empathy
The fact is, I simply have a different body type. I happen to have a metabolism like the energizer bunny. I don't understand why I should feel ashamed for it. I don't understand why it means I'm not a 'real woman' that no man would want anyway. Naturally thin women deserve to be loved and wanted and lusted after as much as the women who were blessed with amazing and stunning curves.
Exercise empathy. Embrace uniqueness. Encourage natural variation. All women deserve to feel good about themselves in their natural bodies, regardless of whether those bodies are a size 20 or a size 2.
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OMG R. Blue. I hope some sweet little grandma doesn't read this page! Lol.
I don't feel sorry for me either, but I used to. I just wanted to address aspects of this culture that say a person isn't perfectly fine the way they are. I think half the battle to self esteem is realizing that all those 'other people' are full of crap and to not buy into the stereotypical image of perfection.
As to the rest of your comment, sounds fun. I'm game. :P
Sounds like you've gotten a good handle on it....realizing that those other people are full of crap. And even sweet little grandmas need a little lovin too. Embrace what you have girl.....a lot of those that tell you to put on the pounds are just jealous that you are so thin. Come on over and take a spin.
I am right there with you. I just turned 40. I have been thin my whole life. I have 3 kids, 6 and under and had been back to pre-pregnancy weight within a couple of months of giving birth. I exercise, I eat heathfully. I do chose grilled chicken, lots of veggies. I happen to not like fried foods,they feel so greasy, so I almost never eat. I don't like fast food, I prefer better foods, salads w/ fresh fruit and chicken, fish,etc. I like ice cream though and eat that a few times a week. What I can't stand are people commenting about how thin I am. Yes I am,but I am healthy. I recently had a teacher at my son's school tell me I looked so thin that I looked like I could barely lift my child. Hello?? I go to the gym and bench 70lbs (and I am a 5'3" woman!!) I pride myself in being strong. But all the women in my family are thin,all. I even drink protein shakes for snacks to keep up my calories since I like to run. I know nobody would walk up to a heavy person and say 'wow you are so fat you look like you can't pick up something off the ground' so why is it ok to say that to me???
Thank god there are other ppl out there that feel the same as me. I cant stand it anymore, thin ppl hate groups spring up all over the place, shops, online clothing stores, catalouges all catered for 'Curvy size 12-14+'. MOST STORES DONT EVEN STOCK SIZE 6!!! If anyone tried to start a size 12 or under shop, it would get slammed for promoting an unhealthy body image. So what I ask you is the 'big is beautiful' saying promoting. Im not saying being skinny is really healthy for evererybody, but neither is being obese. I go to a club or a resturant and i get it from everyone, anorexic b**ch this and god if you get any thinner youd dissapear that. Im not ill, my mum n sister are the same way and i dont need abuse everytime i leave the house!... rant over
Yay! At last! Someone else! I have always been stick thin, I have wished to be curvier, I have always eaten what I wanted and never gained weight - even after 2 kids. And no one EVER has any sympathy. I reckon we should start a support group for skinny girls..(naturally skinny not neverending diet skinny)
U know what, i've always been skinny. People keep telling me stuff like " U r too skinny. U should eat" or " u look like a stick" which is so rude. As a result, i've lost my self confidence. I've tried everything, but i was unable to gain a single pound. The thing is that those people don't understand how such comments could literally ruin someone's life.
You said that you wouldn't dream of commenting to an overweight person about their food intake or their weight, but some people do and it is just as hurtful as it is to the nautrally thin person who is accused of being anorexic. I have a serious medical condition that requires daily medication. One of the side effects of this medication is lethargy and weight gain. I am not a big eater I try to eat healthy as much as possible and I exercise as long as I have the energy to do so, and going off the meds isn't an option. People see me eating and plenty of times I get comments about whether or not I should be eating that. People laugh at me all the time and even when I'm walking I will get funny stares. I've asked my dr about other options but their aren't many. We all have to learn to love our bodies regardless and not be so quick to judge another person and their bodies. We need to stop focusing on whats wrong and focus on what's right.
Honestly love you for this post! i'm the exact same and beyond frustrated that people are ignoratn enough not to realise people can be naturally thin, i eat twice as much as most of my friends, and no this isnt how thin i want to be i want to put on weight but it's not like i havent tried. i hate it when people automatically brand you with an eating disorder or assume you dont eat, just because gaining weight is easy to them doesn't mean its like that for everyone!
thank you for this post, even for the slight awareness created by it cos its so true!
unwillingly fat, I totally understand how you feel. You know, I think it is interesting how naturally thin women and heavier women often experience the same exact treatment and always wish they had what the opposite has. I KNOW that larger women experience extremely hurtful comments from people about their eating and exercise habits and hate that it happens. It is incredibly rude and should not happen.
I really believe in the power of empathy. I strongly empathize with women who experience shockingly hurtful treatment about their weight because I have been there myself, on the opposite end of the scale. What I do hate is that people seem to not even comprehend why it might be hurtful to comment about a thin woman's weight. It's kind of like the "you look like a child" comments I get. People think it's acceptable to talk about it since being thin and young-looking is what women generally want to be. Hence, they may not realize until they blurt out something hurtful and insulting that it may be perceived as such.
Such a battle for acceptance, regardless of your problem. Everyone's got problems, many women feel insecure about something. I just wish we could be supportive of everyone and empathize with their insecurities instead of writing them off as dumb.
I totally feel the same way as you I have also been naturally thin since young and I really hate it too. I always get those weird body scans and often I hear people saying' omg look at that girl she is like a stick and things like does she eat. I have a really low self esteem now whenever I'm outside & someone looks at me I feel that they are talking about how skinny I am.My mood gets really affected and I end up going home.
How I do wish that people would stop judging us or giving comments just because we are skinny
OMG finally im 19 and naturally skinny i have been bullied for being skinny, i have been put in an eating disorer unit . . . why? i dont know all the other girls who had eating disorders were looking at me as if i was mad scoffing all my food and then still feeling hungry, i can eat anything and nothing changes i am learning nnow to just love who i am because i wouldnt be me if i was not a skinny minny, i wish those bulllies out there could just understand we have feeling too, they wouldnt go up to somebody overweight and shout names as that would be looked at as wrong but call me anarexic and judge a book by its cover im sorry to ruin your gosip but SKINNY people EAT too x
Wow, I actually thought I was like he only person in the world who was naturally skinny and couldn't gain weight And it made me really upset! But now iknow their are others and they know exactly what I'm going through it really gets my confidence up. I just wish other people who don't suffer from this issue would understand that we do not have an eating disorder it's just who we are! I can't stand it when people tell me i need to eat more or when they ask if I even eat at all, it really hurts my feelings! I still wish I was heavier tho because I have lost all my confidence and feel that I am too skinny to wear a bikini which is a big thing to me as all my friends and all the other girls weAr them sitting out in the sun tanning while I'm pale wearing a rashie. Or when I'm getting changed in front of people and they can just freely walk around with their bras on while I get changed in the toilet, it makes me so jealous! Sometimes they even complain that they are too fat! And i'm thinking you have no idea, I would do anything to swap bodies! But that's life and I guess I have to deal with it. Although if you have any ways that I can gain wieght please say! Or if Anyone has the same problem!
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What a refreshing article........I have always been very petite, but its natural. I don't look really bony or gangly like the unaturally thin can look (example, the supermodels who have actually forced it) I am only 5'3 so I am in proportion. I eat really well, love my food, and I actually regularly do weights, purely to build some more shape to my body. I seriously reccommend this to naturally thin people because it does actually help if you aren't entirely happy with your appearance. Some people have the whole preconcieved idea that if you are a woman and you start to lift weights, that you will automatically turn into s she-male, this is utter rubbish. I have built a great shape on my legs and on my arms that people have commented on in some of my photos, which goes to show it does give you results. It also makes you feel better because you have the extra strength there too as well as improved shape etc.....I used to get really annoyed with people commenting and spent years being unhappy and wanting to change it. I have even had comments from family members in the past, like an aunt for example! (She was lucky she caught me on a good day!) but i learned to make the most of what I have and essentially just build on it.....take a look at some of the female wrestlers of the past, Torrie Wilson, Trish Stratus, I don't think they look manly at all, in fact they have fantastic bodies, almost like comic book characters. All in proportion, little waist, great shape. There are seriously certain things u can do with weight training if you concentrate on certain areas and build on them. I have had a lot of men compliment my figure and tell me that they are suprised i'm not happy with my weight because when they hold me they think i feel really nice, which is an encouragement. But I suggest that it is always good just to get checked out to make sure you don't have any underlying medical problems that are preventing weight gain...I had this all checked out and I was perfectly healthy in the results. The only thing I do suffer is IBS like symptoms at the moment, which makes me feel that I am not getting as much nutrition from my food as I should and because I am suffering bloating etc....I cannot eat as much but I am still getting all this looked into as I reckon it may help with the weight issue. But just make the most of what you have, build on it and as hard as it is, disregard the ignorant people who obviosuly feel insecure within themselves to make comments like that.
I totally agree with you on this. Why should people give sympathy to women who are wide hipped and large breasted and just make rude comments like "Who wants to look like a stick??" to those who are thin? It depends who you say that to. If you are self induced skinny and literally have bones showing then that is true, but what about all us naturally thin AND BEUTIFUL girls? I have always been petite, just like my mum. Some girls make really rude remarks at me like " Oh your such a skinny bitch" and " You will get sick and be unhealthy because your thin". I hate people saying that. But whatever they say about curvy women being "real women", us naturally thin people ARE BEUTIFUL TO!
WOW! this is exactly what I've been feeling. I'm only 15, but am totally full of peoples bullsh*t! i want to be a model in NZ, and am with a model agency. The agent has already told me not to expect many jobs because I'm a size 6, not a 10-14+. As NZ clients want girls that are curvy and relate to everyone in NZ....sooo EVERYONE in NZ is curvy? nah-uh...i dont think so! If i want work, I have to go international...which I really can't afford right now....duh! I'm 15!!! Every day at school I hear students commenting on my size..and I've really started hating my body! Some people tell me I am 'blessed' (I go to a christian school) but I can't wear half of what curvy girls my age wear....it just drapes off me. =(
So it means a lot to hear what you guys have been commenting and knowing that others are dealing with the same thing... and R.Blue thank you for making my night!
Hello I do not know who or where you are but you are FABULOUS. I am in the same position and have had all the horrible taunts from other people (usually girls) because I am a naturally slim girl who does not put on weight no matter what I do ever, basically the same as everyone above and the best to luck to the lot of you!!
I'm bored of the 'real women' brigade. I am not a fake human being.
Calling someone something as horrible as a stick is nasty and rude as well.
I was told by my college teacher once about my weight and she said some horrible things to me and I just cried.
Thin girls are not permitted to go up to bigger girls and say nasty things, so why is it okay the other way round??
Larger people have a lot more fight, it seems, whereas we sit and say nothing and let people bully us like this.
I'm also annoyed as some people keep hiding behind the 'curvy' argument when they actually mean 'overweight'. There is such a difference!
Even at college, the other girls or teachers would notice me with, shock horror, chocolate or something, they'd actually voice their surprise that I would even buy chocolate. They just assumed that I starved myself??
Some people are so cruel and I just wish that people would accept that every girl is different and we're ALL real (a saying which basically comes from a bunch of insecure women).
It is annoying as I try hard to find a size 6 in shops but you're more likely to find a size 22 or something which is so totally unfair.
Anyway, it's great to know I am not alone on this, none of us are and we should not be bullied anymore.
People come in a lot of natural different shapes and sizes and they're ALL great.
Thank you SO much for posting this. I've gotten called all of the above my entire life... as if it's my fault that my mom and grandma are thin, and that I happened to inherit the "skinny" gene. I don't understand why people find it acceptable to criticize MY body, but it's not to "fat" people, because that is somehow more socially acceptable. Sorry, it's not. It's still a judgement. I'm not anorexic. I'm eating healthy. I don't need to "eat more". So just leave me be and let me be happy and comfortable in my own body.
Thanks so much for posting this. You hit all my pet peeves..."eat a cheeseburger" or "real women have curves." At 37, I'm more confident with my body than I have ever been but I still have a ways to go. For eg. I sitll feel very self-conscious wearing shorts in public. I've got LONG legs but they are very thin and have received my share of negative comments. I also love Fall because the cooler weather means I can cover up without sweltering the heat.
I do feel better when I exercise and lift weights but it only does so much. I'm just naturally thin, long, lanky like the rest of you. Thanks everyone for sharing. All my friends are the opposite and don't get what it's like and I don't talk about it to them. I also manage to go for regular massage therapy and am able to put my body insecurities on hold when I enter the clinic. I find the touch therapeutic.
I have to admit, I like the comments form the one guy that posted. You know, I've gotten crappy remarks from people most of my life and the vast majority were from other females. Are guys more accepting? Less critical? More polite? Less catty and dare I say, jealous? Go thin girls, we're just as sexy as the rest of them!
Thank you. Thank you THANK YOU. I thought I was alone. I'm 29, 5'7" and 116 pounds. The only time I was ever within my "normal" weight range was when I was pregnant. I lost the baby weight and got back to my normal shape within months. I've heard everything you lovely ladies have had thrown at you as well as "compliments" like, "Oh, I wish I could eat like you." "I wish I had your problem." "You're so funny: you can milk a bag of m&ms for days." Sorry I don't shove candy in my mouth; I just don't have a sweet tooth. What do you say to these back-handed compliments? Stop pointing out my weight at all!
I've started therapy for self-esteem and social phobia and I know it stems from 15 years of "you're so thin" comments. I'm afraid to wear tank tops in public. I own one pair of shorts and they're for sleeping in only. I try on lingerie and cry in the dressing room; I ordered a corset that my husband doesn't know about because I'm too ashamed to wear it. It's all in my head but it didn't get there by mistake. Hearing my own mother tell me to "sit down with a bag of Doritos" in an effort to "help me". I don't see how eating junk food would help, particularly since I ate junk for years and it did nothing. I've been eating healthy for several years now, and guess what: no difference. I DON'T GAIN WEIGHT.
My therapist told me there were support groups like this for people like me. I was afraid to search; afraid I'd find more comments about "poor little thin girls *eye roll*". I only found this site after filtering through the typical "too thin models" "how thin is too thin" and "real women have curves" crap.
We are real women.
This was a bit of a rambling comment but it feels so freeing to know I'm not alone. Thank you again.
Thanks for creating this site! I think this is especially valuable for girls in their teens, who dealing with body image issues.
I'm short (5'0) and when I was in high school, I weighed about 85-89lbs. No starving, it was just the way I was. I had classmates who would come up to me and self-righteously DEMAND to know whether I was anorexic! So rude.
It was hard because people thought I was far younger than I actually was. I had 17 year old feelings and hormones running through my body, but I was treated like an 11 year old. Even worse, I knew no other peers who were in the same situation. Until I was about twenty, I was actually told, by both boys and girls, "Oh, you're too little and cute to be sexy."
Thin/tiny girls NEED a site like this. The issues they face are seldom discussed. It's important they they realize that they are NOT alone.
I agree with everything you said except about curves. Like most people (and I really dont mean to sound rude), you don't seem to know what curves are. curves are NOT. NOT. NOT. Any of the following:
-Fat
-Rolls
-Big thighs
-Wide/big butt
-Large boobs
etc. Curves = SHAPE NOT SIZE. You can't be any kind of being and not have curves. curves are the concave/convex surfaces that cover physical things. Like how our legs are shapely, are waists go in and our hips go out. THOSE are curves. =) please do NOT buy into the media's attempt at brainwashing us into thinking that curves means you either look as disgusting and unreal as Jessica Rabbit or fat like Queen Latifah. Curvy does not mean fat. Curves do not mean fat or having big jugs. I am a size 2 at the least and I have an hourglass/spoon shape.
Omg someone who understands me...I'm naturally skinny and always have been since growing up. Throughout my entire life I've always been asked "Are you anorexic?" "Do you eat?", and comments like "Your like a toothpick." "Go eat something." It really gets old and annoying always having to hear these comments, and whenever someone tells me the same thing, I feel like giving them a punch across the face. What's funny is that the people who tells me these kinds of things, eat less than I do...
I can understand that many larger women have insecurities and there is a ridiculous amount of pressure on women to look good and not be fat. But I totally agree that its incredibly insensitive and downright offensive to bash skinny women, it is equally as bad as calling someone fat. You can eat healthy and still be big or skinny, everyone just has a natural body size, its a shame so many people think there is one ideal body that every single person should aim for. Good hub I enjoyed reading :)
I'm one of those who'd probably look at you with envy;))Not the type "i hate her" but the type "i hate that i'm not here":)) So,I really hope you enjoy your body now and feel good about it,just think of all those women like me out there and it may help a little bit:))) Happiness comes from within,not from the scale or the mirror...those two are tricky and harsh sometimes,but we should now better what out value is;)
One other thing I experienced from being a 5'3" 100 or less pound 37yr old is being carded constantly! Apparently when you are the size of a preteen people don't notice the gray hairs, laugh lines or kids in tow! I get ID'ed for purchasing lottery tickets, lighters spray paint, you name it. Also I have noticed that there is much more thought involved in my self image because constant comments make me more self concious. Ever noticed that you feel sort of guilty when you simply aren't hungry and the person with you says "No wonder you're so thin, you never eat?" It's disturbing because that statement is so far from the truth and I feel as though I need to defend myself or explain my choice.
While I don't know where you're coming from as I've always been a bit on the heavy side... your post makes me sad, as it points out that women, or is it society in general have a problem with women unless they fall within a certain weight range. 110-120 lbs seems to be it. 109 and less = toothpick. 130 and more = fat slob. Well, maybe not, but in the eyes of the uber critical? Probably so.
Pity you however I cannot. Go to any bar and watch. The thin girls will be dancing and flirting with the guys. The curvy girls who you desire to be like will likely be sitting alone.
I am a skinny guy and I get tired of all the negative comments my way. People would never ask a fat guy how much he weighs and why can't he lose weight, but I get asked (in public by my friends) how much I weigh and why can't I gain weight. People never stop to think and realize how rude their comments are because they don't empathize with skinny people. They get away with saying things they would never dare say out loud to one of their fat friends. I'm in my late 30's but I have the body of an 18 year old boy...the only problem is my metabolism has slowed down so now I'm starting to get love handles. No matter how much protein I consume or how much weights I lift in the gym, I never gain weight or muscle.
I'm 46, 5' 7.5" tall and 130 lbs. trying to get to 135 just to see if I can. No success so far. But until I was in my 40s, I was no more than 120. In high school and college I was no more than 110. Naturally. Diet? What's that? Watch what I eat? Other than to eat right, why? I gave birth to two children when I was in my 30s and wanted so much to keep the few pounds I gained from pregnancy. No dice. My first stomach flu after my older child was born and I went back down again. D'oh! Only once I hit my early forties did the natural tendency toward gaining weight at that age so many women experience finally allow me to put on enough weight that I finally feel soft to the touch, not all bony and pointy. Thankfully, my husband has always loved my body no matter how much I weigh.
When I was a teen and in my early twenties, and even into my 30s, I did get all the negative comments you all describe. Hurtful to say the least, and a huge bash to my already frail ego. I have never understood and cannot to this day why "people" seem to think being thin is enviable. Personally, I have come to the conclusion that this so-called obsession with thinness is a total media invention and women of all sizes are falling victim to it. Women who struggle to lose weight think men only want stick-thin girls like you see in magazine ads. Not. And women who struggle to gain weight think all men want "curvy" women, as in big breasts and wide hips and round behinds. Again, not. It takes all kinds and there really is someone for everyone. What matters most truly is who you are on the inside. Take care of your body, no matter how you look, and let your inner self shine. Because cliché as it is, beauty really does come from within. Anyone you meet who is worth knowing will see that and even love you for it.
Totally agree! I am 5'2" and I weigh 82 lbs. I am naturally that way and eat more then just about everyone I know, even my dad! Most of my family is thin, and none of us have eating disorders. What I hate is seeing curvy or overweight girls on the internet complaining about how guys only like skinny girls, and then almost every comment is "All those girls are liars who don't eat!", "No guy likes a skinny girl", "Real women have curves!", etc. So, I'm a liar who starves herself and will never get a man and is a fake woman? I don't think so! They shouldn't boost one body shape up by dragging down another. Why can't we all just accept that people are different?
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I look at people like twiggy and I think thin women look beautiful. I have always been thin and eat anything I like. People have different body types, we are ectomorphs. Higher metabolism. I often wish I was curvier, but I love being able to wear certain things that some people can't. I can go to a nude beach comfortable and I realize that I love not having to worry about anything drooping or sagging as I age. I have gotten compliments from many people and it's great to look younger. I am 34 5'3 95lbs :) I would not mind to gain 5-10 lbs tho, but I agree that lifting weights is a great way to shape your body as well as increasing confidence. It just makes you feel good about yourself when you stay active.
As a child I was always quite underweight, and even now my bmi ends up somewhere around 17-18 (I'm 18 years old). I have the tiniest frame so I don't look that bony, just thin with some sort of curves (read - all the weight sits around where I, well, sit). People always tell me that I'm tiny and that I should eat more. I probably should, unless I'm moving around all day I'm not very hungry, and I often skip meals because I'm occupied with something and I simply forget to eat.
I do eat anything I like though, and I should probably cut down on my intake of sweet rolls, pancakes, chocolate, peanut butter sandwiches and energy drinks simply because it's not very healthy. I do, however, like low cal food like fruits and veggies, or some sort of cereal bars that are about 70 cal, but when I eat them at work people comment that I should be eating cinnamon rolls and stuff instead.
Why? I suspect they are jealous because I'm thin, and they are dieting.
Skinny Bitches Unite! Haha.
It took me until college to really feel comfortable with my body. I gained 10 pounds my first semester and felt more normal at 110 lbs (just like you!) I grew up with comments like "I could break your arm over my knee!" and "you're going to be in a wheelchair when you grow up because you're so skinny" and "you're so skinny it's gross," etc. My growth chart from my pediatrician has a sketch in the margin off to the side since there was no place for me on the actual chart. I'm thankful that I only grew to 5'6", since my mom dealt with all of this at 3 inches taller when she was growing up.
It's hard to find sympathy when you're surrounded by people that are dieting and trying to lose weight. Obesity is a huge (no pun intended) issue in the US right now, and I'm all for improving that, but it's frustrating that no one can accept that naturally thin women exist and have our own set of body image issues. I'm athletic and work hard to eat plenty of calories so that I don't get any thinner than I already am. No one sympathizes with the fact that the only frozen lunches and health foods are meant for weight loss and that I need to eat two of them and still won't gain a pound.
I'm 26 and currently trying to put on 5-10 pounds of healthy weight. Not that I'm unhealthy now, but with how athletic I am I would feel more comfortable with a few more pounds. There are a few resources out there for women trying to gain weight. We're not alone and the internet is bringing us closer together.
And to the other skinny girls out there - don't feel like you have to put on weight for anyone else. I'm doing this for me and my health, but as long as you're eating right, you're perfect. Healthy is beautiful, no matter what shape or size you are.
Hi there...Thanks you for posting this one....I can relate, im naturally thin too...since childhood. I got no eating disorders and I even liked cooking and eating foods. I dont know why people often say rude remarks and being so tactless, do they never realize it that could hurt my feelings...But as I was reading articles about being skinny, I know I am not alone and I know that theres someone out there who will love me for what size I am! Think those people making rude remarks are having issues with their weight too. Think of reading between the lines.
"Ohhh your sooo thin" (I envy you, no matter what slimming tea/pill i take I could never lose weight!)
I just can say that its being confident, walk confidently and embrace your body..!
God made us this way and they dont have the right to judge us by our appearance because they are not the ones raising us... Remember that nobody can make you inferior without your consent! Celebrate skinny! :))
I have always been exactly the same way. I eat whatever I want but I've had some other problems besides people claiming that I'm anorexic. My parents, usually my dad has called me "skinny fat" because he thought I ate unhealthy. I do really try to eat healthy but I'm young and I love junk food. Also, I had to take some ADHD meds and they gave me all the side effects which included "loss of appetite" as one. I definitely had that because I'd feel my empty stomach but it wouldn't hurt as much and things didn't taste right. My parents think I'm anorexic. One reason might be because I have insomnia and during the summer and weekends I would sleep in until 3:00 and skip lunch. Sometimes I skip meals because I'm busy or just don't feel hungry but I'm definitely NOT anorexic, I love food.
You are right about people not finding it insulting. They all say it, even the other skinny girls who are just a bit bigger than me. When I tell them that my metabolism is just super fast they're always like, "Oh, I'd kill for that" But they don't realize that it comes with problems of its own. If I eat until my stomach is full (which doesn't take much food as my stomachs small) I will most likely be hungry again no matter what I ate in about 2-4 hours. If I followed that it'd be about 5 meals a day instead of 3 and most schedules just don't allow for that. At school our lunch isn't until 1:20 and they just started disallowing eating of little snacks in class. Most days I feel like I'm going to pass out and I get very dizzy. I never have time to eat breakfast in the morning, I haven't in years. So if I try to eat breakfast I always get a stomach ache. It's also embarrassing because the portions at restaurants are always too much for me and people will give me weird looks or say, "you barely touched it" and I feel bad if someone else besides my family is paying because it looks like I wasted their money. I've had waitresses frown at me and say, "you didn't like it?" And usually I actually did but my stomach can barely fit a third of the food they give.
Often I dislike my body because it naturally curves slightly outward just bellow my waist and then goes drastically in again where my "curvy" hips should be then out again for my thighs. It creates this weird, and in my opinion, ugly shape that looks sort of boyish. My ribs also feel too close to my skin but I've stayed at or around 107 - 112 for a really long time. And I'm 5'55".
Anyway, this article is so on point. More people should just stop even thinking or looking or focusing on the outside appearance of people around them and worry about their own body.
I'm very thin for my height and I get this all the time. People are shocked if someone calls someone else fat think it is perfectly okay to give me trouble for being thin.
Ever since I was 13 people acted like I was public property. People I didn't know would demand to know how much I ate and if I ate a lot of carbohydrates and protein.
Women I didn't know would poke at my core muscles and go ooh you're so thin I see your connective tissue.
People would treat me like I was incredibly physically weak. Like tell me not to lift plastic/aluminium chairs in case I "hurt myself". Or I'd be carrying fuel home and local guys would ask to help me, insist when I'd said no 3 or 4 times, and still try and take it off me. The way some people react to me you would think I had some horrible medical condition...um, no, guys, being thin is not a sickness.
People, it's very simple. It's rude and invasive to comment on someone's body, whether that is because they're fat, thin, short, tall, or any other reason. It's not what you do if you respect basic behavioural boundaries.
I am so happy you posted this because i've been having a hard time about my skinniness lately and began to loathe how i look because i do not feel desirable but i read this and i'm almost crying because someone feels what its like!
I am skinny too. I have been for my whole life. I started saying to people, "your just jealous." They usually ended up saying, "Ya I am." Which shocked me. I thought they were going to hurl me off a cliff or something. I think it's best to just be happy with who you are, curvy, skinny...whatever! It's all in the head anyway, what we think is beautiful and what we think isn't. So live life and be happy in your own skin. Ignore people's negative comments if you know they don't apply to you and just realize we all have one thing in common and that is insecurity at one time or another. So flick the self esteem switch on and we can enjoy the light that we were all meant to be in, in the first place!- Secure, and happy with just being alive!
Amen to that!
I have the same 'thin problem' I can't gain wait and I don't have curves and the other day I was tring on dresses with my friend and she wanted me to try on a really tight dress and she was like" wow this shows how little your boobs are and you look like a rectangle cuz you have no curves"...it was pretty harsh to me. But I wear a size 00 in pants and I can't gain anything so I'm going to have to accept it!:P
I have been skinny most of my life. I luv my body and accept it the way it is even if my boobs are small. When i was in highschool people would say i am anorexic or bulimic. They would even watch what i eat and wait for me to go to the loo. They ended up being disappointed. comments like skinny, anorexic, bones ,toothpick were totally allowed but not for over weight. At the time it seemed a bit unfair.Being on the otherside of the scale is hard for us too ie not being able to find ur size for theclothes u like or end up going to the 12 yr old section.walking in a bikini on the beach is also hard for us too believe it or not. That was then. I think over weight women and slender women should stand up for themselves and be proud of who you are.we are different for a reason. And diseases such as diabetes and cellulite build up are not restricted to what you weigh. Bottom line eat healthy, exercise and dont waste ur time with people who make negative comments about ur looks.
I've had some of the same problems growing up being naturally slim and I used to hate the negative comments and let it get to me. I used to wish I could get put on weight and tried eating all the high calorie foods which only seemed to work for a day or two then I was back to my usual weight. So now I just accept my body as it is and just aim for a healthy sexy vibrant body no matter what size it is as looking & feeling great is a state of mind.
I can't believe how many of these stories relate to me, I've always been skinny and I used to eat until my stomach actually hurt, but I never gained any weight until the age 16 when I managed to get to 7 stone.
I've only had a few comments before, like 'skinny b*tch' and 'Oh my God, are you anorexic?!'
I never really took these comments seriously until this girl I had to work who was overweight misunderstood me in a noisy room, I was only telling her to wait for someone to get changed before we started the drama exercise but she suddenly started crying and people started shouting at me.. I was very confused :/
I completely understand that she was a bit uptight about her weight, but just because I was skinny she thought I was a monster who planned on making her life hell D:
I'm not flat chested, but I do get annoyed when I hear the older girls in school complain about someone who 'Is always going on about how hard it is to buy jeans'.
Jeans are INCREDIBLY hard to buy when you're American size zero for your lower body! Most shops begin at UK size 8 , which leaves a lot of loose material around my waist, which I am very concious of.
Also, I bought a bikini once, and when I wore it to the beach I got a lot of nasty comments. My family tried to cheer me up saying 'I'd do anything to have a figure like yours!' but I still felt conscious of my weight :(
I know exactly how you feel. growing up I was always really skinny because of depression (when I'm depressed, stressed, or sad I lose my apettite) I was always embaressed of the fact that because of this i had really smal breasts, and I used to get made fun of in locker rooms all the time. Anytime I would try to look for help on the internet or something to help with my self esteem but all I would see is pep talk for over weight girls. It makes me feel very alone and disgusted with myself.
Oh! I love this post! I am 15 and I don't go a day at school without having someone commenting on how skinny I am. I feel the exact same way, people do not ever go up to a fat person and comment about how fat they are! That would be so unbelievably rude. My classmates always ask me if I eat and can never believe that I do eat. When I try to tell people they always tell me to stop complaining and be grateful that i am this way. I don't even like to wear skirts or dresses because my legs are so small, and finding a pair of jeans is like trying to find the sun on a snowy day, I cant!!!
This is so true and so annoying when people do that too us! Another point I don't know if anyone has made is about exercising. People assume that exercising is ONLY to lose weight which is not true at all. So when I exercise people often think I'm doing it cause I want to get even skinnier. Not at all the truth. I exercise because it keeps you healthy, can add muscle mass and toning. If I just sat and ate junk food all day because I can without gaining weight, I could be creating serious health problems that I don't have to be overweight to get. So next time someone larger says to me "jeez looks like all you ate for dinner was a carrot stick", watch out cause I just might get the urge to tell you "looks like all you ate was 25 Big Macs". Same difference,except I'm healthy in the ideal weight/height range and being overweight never is healthy..so lay off.
R. Blue 2 years ago
There you go again. I don't feel sorry for you one bit. You are what you are....enjoy it ....celebrate it....there are men out there looking for exactly what you have. Let me begin by saying that some of the best sexual experiences I've ever had were with thin women. I am able to grab one by the ass and move her in ways that please the hell out of us both...try that with a heavy girl....I don't think so!! You're what some of us guys call a propeller....we can put you on our d**k and spin you like a propeller....there are guys...I know several...that love a thin woman. There's an expression that goes "The closer to the bone, the sweeter the meat". It's true too. Now we've discussed those small boobs before, and remember, if they're pleasing you and your guy is into them too....we have a party!!! If what I say is offensive just delete this ....just being real.